Talking and texting during church is rude. Churches who thrive during and after the pandemic must let go of their individual pastor-centric model and distribute the church’s work to … And if you want to help the chances of change happening at your church, try something a little closer to the things I suggest below: 1. If some of these things are not being done, then the new person that comes to church may never come back again. It's something I have to deliberately focus on doing. And I have to say, sometimes I am really tired but fighting to stay awake because the pastor is teaching something about Scripture that I never noticed in there before and it is fascinating. And for good measure, please decide now not to do the 10 more stupid things I’ve outlined below that, unfortunately, have also become common in our movement during the past decade. There are many other things we don't do anymore that we used to do in church. There is a need for more excellence, not more mediocrity to do it. Show respect for other worshipers by learning church manners and following them. Jesus brought a new level of compassion, forgiveness, and healing into the world. And we urge you, brethren, to recognize those who labor among you, and are over you in the Lord and admonish you, and to esteem them very highly in love for their work's sake. You are so right that we can be discourteous without meaning to. Thank you, again, for sharing these insightful suggestions. It’s not that I don’t think we want to talk about this in church. This screams rehab! I admit to not considering a couple of these before, and I am guilty of "resting my eyes" when not getting enough sleep the night before. And isn’t that why you’re there? No, this is not a silly game we are playing when we stand to recite a verse or sing certain hymns. Dora Weithers from The Caribbean on June 19, 2016: Good points, Pastor Ron. Always remember that church staff—and church volunteers—are serving God, not … What’s more, when we get there, we often do the same things that we did the previous Sunday. Same for when someone thinks a task is beneath them. If you choose to bring babies and toddlers to church, sit in the back so you can remove the child if she gets squirmy or cries. If, for some reason you're running late and can't get there before church starts, discreetly slip in through the back door and find a seat in the back. If you’ll avoid these seven common practices many church members unthinkingly engage in every week, you’ll go a long way toward keeping your pastor encouraged. Of course, you are wide awake, listening intently, and have only closed your eyes to rest them. Visit top-rated & must-see attractions. People do the things they do because we all have different personality types. There are reasons we stand up or sit down during service. I like to think I follow them pretty well, even if I am not a regular church goer. I AM old fashioned maybe, but I respect the setting and the pastors and what brings us together on Sundays. Can you spell D-I-S-T-R-A-C-T-I-O-N? But, it’s that important. You definitely don’t want to miss that! Ronald E Franklin (author) from Mechanicsburg, PA on July 25, 2016: Hi, SueGoryan. Debby Mayne is an etiquette expert and writer with 25+ years of experience. And that support should not just be verbal. No Food and Drink in Church. It’s easy to blame the decline on a former pastor, or one of the deacons, or one of the seniors, or even on the culture. These changes are great. Do not refrain from lighting a candle, before or after Mass but do not press a button to charge an 'electric' candle abomination. 9. Patricia Scott from North Central Florida on February 23, 2017: So well said....I am a member of a tiny church, only about 15 of us on a weekly basis. Certainly do not stroll up to receive Holy Communion, this is a very frightening process, you are about to receive the Body and Blood of your Creator; keep your hands together and your eyes down - and walk with a purpose. Lower expectations. The church where a believer regularly attend for quite some time, wants to leave the church and go to some other one for higher level of growth in the word of God. I'm glad you found a church that fits who you are. We must encourage them and pray for them. Don’t expect people to change quickly. I certainly do agree with you. Going into a church doesn’t make you a Christian anymore than going into a garage makes you a car. Okay, if you read the first of these “10 Things The Church Can’t Do,” you caught me. You may need to lower the number of programs you offer, but never lower expectations of the ones you do. But a church service is not the place to use your phone! The exceptions would be a drink for small children, water for the priest or choir (if discreet) and water for those who are ill. First of all, quite a few people are allergic to fragrance, so be considerate of them and don't put it on. And part of that provision is you. First of all, quite a few people are allergic to fragrance, so be considerate of them and don't put... Groom Yourself. 629 reviews. Kari Poulsen from Ohio on September 26, 2017: Many of these issues are just common courtesy. No lamenting the greatness of the "good old days." Miami Beach Barbados. Abuse the sheep. The pastor had no one's attention after he droned on & on for 50 minutes and was still talking when I slipped out as best I could....I will never sit in front of a new church again as my 'getaway' did not go unnoticed, but I already knew when the service started (about 15 minutes late) that I would not be back. Most pastors encourage congregants to develop relationships with one another. Hi, Eric. aethelthryth, I think pastors understand that some people are going to have difficulty staying awake simply because of what may have been happening in their lives (like lack of sleep). Praying God's favor on you and your ministry. Un-tune the piano. Thanks for the article. This evening I will do better. And pastors want to know about the problems parishioners are dealing with so that they can offer the spiritual and practical support that is a fundamental aspect of their calling. Enjoyed it very much. Such a useful article, Pastor Ron. Tell him the scheduled sermon is entitled "Why God Sent AIDS to Punish Homosexuals". But then, it’s not really a job at all, it’s a calling. One of the worst experiences for a visitor or newcomer to a church is to be ignored by the regular attenders. You can learn more and gain instant access to the course today. Do you value all the hard work, dedication, prayer, and personal sacrifice that comes with being the go-to leader of a congregation filled with diverse, far from perfect, often needy, and sometimes ornery human beings? The word I would use is thoughtfulness. The church is the Body of Christ. Thanks for sharing. Some bad. Anyway, each point you've made is well taken. Below, Michael Palin explains why finding peace and quiet in a church is important for him. What is discouraging to pastors, I think, is when they can see that someone has clearly made the choice to tune out the message, and use the time to catch up on their sleep. Faith Reaper from southern USA on July 24, 2016: Pastor Ron, these are excellent points to consider in being mindful in supporting a pastor. You shall not eat any of their flesh, and you shall not touch their carcasses; they are unclean to you.” We all know that the Bible forbids good Christians from eating pork, and this is one rule that many factions of the Abrahamic religion take very seriously. God has promised to provide those He calls to that work everything they need to accomplish the task. 7 Things NOT to Say When You’re Leading Change in Your Church. The Bible is clear that it is the responsibility of church members to not only esteem their pastoral leaders highly (if you don't think your pastor merits your esteem, you are in the wrong church), but to actively encourage them both by word and action. Some are little. Shopping. I can tell you from experience, it’s not an easy job! If you aren't sure whether or not you're an offender, you probably are. 5 Things You Really Shouldn’t Do At Church If You’re Sick…Stay Home. It is good to do other good things, and our churches may make different decisions about engaging in good works and social action. Your pastor has studied hard and prepared the opening of the sermon for greatest spiritual impact. Worshipers need to be able to focus on what they are there for, not be exposed to bad behavior. ‘50 Things to do in a Church’ celebrates the many and diverse uses of church buildings and asks the public to share their favourite things to do in a church or chapel. Being the church daily for the sake of the world is what matters most. That is the priority of Christian missions. Whether it’s checking messages, texting, or, heaven forbid, actually talking with someone, using your cell phone during a service is not only distracting to everyone else, it also communicates major disrespect to the person leading that service. 6. This is a good reminder to be even more supportive and helpful. Being subjected to a fervently expressed account of the latest dispute between Deacon Jones and Elder Smith doesn’t really help that process! Do you really appreciate your pastor? Oistin's Friday Night Fish Fry. 3. It seems natural when the church is in decline to expect less, but this never works. Working Face to Face with the Poor. The clergy staff will not like it and you’ll be expected to give... (2) Don’t drink 10 shots of communion wine. U.S.A. on June 19, 2016: Man, I was doing great until that last one. Ronald E Franklin (author) from Mechanicsburg, PA on June 17, 2016: celafoe, your comment clearly shares your point of view. If you love big, floppy hats, that's fine. The cell phone is a marvelous invention. Ron is the founding pastor of a church in Harrisburg, PA. Can he do so and under what circumstances? Although we do do our greetings more before and during service. I remember several occasions when someone pulled out their cell phone while I was earnestly teaching Bible Study. I guess my upbringing of 'the church is the house of the Lord' did not fit in there, and neither did I. Introducing "One Thing": A New Video Series. We pastors probably need to address it more than we do. The other Sunday an entire row of a family was sitting in front of us and what was so distracting to me was that they all were on their phones texting or checking Facebook during the sermon! Unless someone's hair is on fire or someone has just fallen and can't get up, don't talk during a church service. 2. I can understand teenagers trying to do such, but their parents were too! The needs of the church – yes; the needs of the world – yes, again. It's appalling to see people stretching out to recline in the pew and taking a nap. They are challenges to push your church to excel in these areas in order to be a better ambassador of the Gospel to the world. He is a graduate of Denver Seminary in Colorado. Warning: some people might be offended. If you can comment below without being negative, list some other things we have stopped doing for good reasons. Dover Beach. Bring problems to the pastor’s attention before he preaches. Maybe I am not anti-social but certainly close to it. A pastor is not a scriptural position, it is descriptive of a ministry performed by God anointed men who understand NO MAN IS OVER ANOTHER. charlie from From Kingdom of God living on Planet earth in between the oceans on June 17, 2016: what a load of hogwash. One of the things God intends for pastors and other church leaders to be able to count on to help them in their work is the genuine appreciation and hearty cooperation of the members of the congregation. Courtesy is so important in life and I try to show it to everyone. Words of approbation and appreciation are crucial, and not to be neglected. It can be very distracting to hear the snip-snip of a fingernail clipper or the scratching sound of an emery board in the pew behind you. I came too early a few years ago when I was looking for a new church and it was not good-for me! Regardless of your church, you have certain things you “do” routinely. If we want to know what the church should be and do, we need look no further than Jesus. Some people will not learn their Bible if it isn’t presented with some hoaky bells and whistles. 50 fun things to do in church : by Cugel the clever: Tue Jun 20 2000 at 14:42:55: Some of these are quite funny, and some of them aren't, just have a good laugh. Before you go to church, find out what time it starts. Book your tickets online for the top things to do in Christchurch, New Zealand on Tripadvisor: See 197,691 traveler reviews and photos of Christchurch tourist attractions. People are there to worship, not listen to a side conversation. Come late. It can also discourage the Pastor when a member refuses an assignment because he or she thinks someone else should do it. 15-20 minutes too early showed me a very casual church with people shouting greetings and visiting across the room to each other; shorts & jeans were worn and flip flops were taken off on many people; loud laughing and running thru the church. Ronald E Franklin (author) from Mechanicsburg, PA on June 19, 2016: So true, MsDora. Angels are headed your way this morning ps. Both God and your pastor will actually like it! Don't forget that you are in church to worship, not socialize, give yourself a manicure, nap, or do anything else that is distracting. Put your coat and handbag on the spot next to you. And one of the most useful features of these ubiquitous devices is that we can carry them with us, in pocket or purse, everywhere we go. College professors rarely have the privilege pastors do of talking about the actual words of the God of the universe. I have been guilty of a few of these things here and will remember from now on how it may be rude to the pastor. As a pastor, I’m amazed that people don’t seem to realize that preachers notice when congregants' eyes are shut during the sermon. Church members who know and love one another can’t resist taking a few minutes after the worship service to chat. Church is not the place to clip your nails or apply your makeup. If you aren't sure of why, ask your pastor or one of the church leaders. I feel that most congregants, myself included, sometimes sing too timidly. I understand that the church is not a “rest home for saints, but a hospital for sinners”…but... Force A Rowdy Kid To Sit Through Sacrament. But, let’s not miss it: while it is ordinary this does not mean that it is not important! The only thing that's acceptable to do on any electronic device is turn to the scripture verse in a Bible app. Wait until you leave the church to smooch. 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